Plan to talk to your friend in a quiet space away from
Tell your friend what you have seen and that you would like to
help. Tell them in a quiet, caring and straightforward way.
Give them time to talk and encourage them to put their feelings
into words - do not interrupt and accept their answers in a
non-judgmental way. If they insist there is no problem,
tell them that you hope they are right and that there is really
no problem; but say you are worried by what you have seen and
Give them information as to where they can go for help -
leaflets or brochures that you can leave with them if possible.
Ask them to have just one appointment with a
doctor or counsellor; and offer to go with them and wait while
they have it.
If you think the self-harm is dangerous or
life threatening, please make sure you enlist the help of a
professional before you intervene.
If your help is refused accept you have done all
you can for now but that you may have planted the seed of future